Carly, Lindsay, and Matt standing in front of a large tree with streamers on it in Durham, NC
Photo Credit: Kivus & Camera
Wedding Officiant based in Raleigh/Durham, serving all of North Carolina. I officiate religious and secular elopements, weddings, and vow renewals, and particularly enjoy working with geeky/nerdy/offbeat couples, people who include their pets in the ceremony, and LGBTQIA+ folks. I also offer premarital counseling.
Serving All of North Carolina
People often ask how I decided to become a wedding officiant. I had just graduated from Duke Divinity School in 2018 and was trying to figure out how to use my degree. I had initially planned to continue my education and get a doctorate, but I was burned out by the competitive and isolating academic environment. I had recently been in my brother’s wedding party, and it was a beautiful, lovely day with him and his bride, and our family and friends. I had such a wonderful time.
I reflected on how most of my friends are non-religious or not in any mainstream religion, and I saw a need for someone to perform wedding ceremonies tailored to people’s unique spirituality (or lack thereof). I’m also a member of the LGBTQIA+ community and know that many of us have an extremely difficult time finding religious groups that are truly accepting of every aspect of ourselves. I knew I could be an officiant that made people feel comfortable no matter their identities. I am also a big geek/nerd and always wanted to be a part of creative, themed, fantasy and sci-fi weddings that went viral.
Throughout my journey as a wedding officiant, I have been inspired by my couples who creatively celebrate their uniqueness and diversity in their weddings, from Lord of the Rings elopements to rainbow-inspired ceremonies. Couples are sometimes hesitant to ask me to wear or do something off the wall, but nothing makes me happier than being able to help couples craft a ceremony that authentically celebrates who they are. I don’t mind looking or acting silly if it brings a smile and joy to the best day of the couple’s lives.
I truly love love and love what I do. I love celebrating not only the love between the couple, but the love families and friends have for the couple. While I officiate large weddings (or at least I did before the pandemic), there is a special place in my heart for small elopements that just feature the couple and their two witnesses. It takes much of the pressure off to do/look/act/be a certain way on your wedding day and truly focuses that special moment on the two people who matter most.
I love hearing peoples’ stories and creating a ceremony that is perfect for them, whether silly and extravagant or small and simple, and everything in between. I offer free consults, so don’t hesitate to reach out!
Q: What is your favorite thing about elopements?
A: Elopements are a great opportunity for the couple to make the day really unique and exactly what they want with less pressure from family/friends, and just a lower stress level overall with fewer moving parts to keep track of!
Q: What’s a fun fact about yourself?
A: My favourite color is purple!
Q: What’s your title/position in your business?
A: Owner, Officiant
Q: Is there a wedding detail on your bucket list?
A: I really want to do a Harry Potter themed wedding!
Q: Where was your favorite elopement?
A: I love doing elopements in parks, Umstead Park, Pullen Park, and Lake Crabtree Park are all lovely.
Stephanie, Becca, and Carly sitting on a couch, Carly is wearing a mask
Photo Credit: A random guest!
A couple is kissing in the background right after being pronounced husband and wife and in the foreground the officiant’s watch reads 11:11AM on 11/11/2020
Duke Park, Durham, NC
Carly, Lindsay, Mark, and their pups stand on a sand dune at Jockey’s Ridge Outer Banks, NC
Photo Credit: Jefferson Ellis Photography